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Tips for Giving a Great Wedding Speech

As if weddings were not nerve-wracking enough, there is the added element of the possibility of having to give a speech. There do not appear to be any clear cut rules as to who will give speeches at a wedding, I've heard the best man, the groom, the bride, and the mother-in-laws for possibilities as to who might be giving a speech at a wedding. However, the truth is whoever is going to be giving a speech, there are tips you will want to take to heart in order to follow the theme of the happiest day of your life.

Here are some tips to get you through this more stressful part of any wedding.

  1. Ask if you'll be expected to give a speech. If you think you might be called upon to give a speech at someone's wedding, then ask ahead of time and find out if this is the case. There is nothing worse than being caught off guard and asked by either the bride or groom on the spot to give a speech. In fact it brings to mind a deer caught in headlights. I have personally seen this happen, and watching someone be all tongue tied, break out in a cold sweat and stutter is just as painful to watch as it is to be person going through it. So, find out ahead of time if you will be expected to give a speech.
  2. Should your speech be lighthearted or serious? This is another question you will want to ask. If the bride or groom was looking for a solemn speech, and you get up there and crack a few jokes, this might be upsetting for the person who asked you to give the speech. It is better to find this out ahead of time and save both yourself and others the possible embarrassment.
  3. Be prepared. Whatever you do, don't decide to wing it at the wedding. Unless you are one of these people who can easily give a speech at the drop of a hat which is uncommon, you will be sorry if you don't prepare. So, just like when you took that speech class in college, write out your speech and then fill in some index cards to use when you give the speech. Then stand in front of the mirror, or your dog and practice, practice, practice! You'll be glad you did.
  4. Don't say anything that is going to embarrass or anger anyone at the wedding. No childhood stories that are less than flattering, and no mention of previous boyfriends, girlfriends, lovers, or whatever. This is one time when you should follow the golden rule, "do unto others as you would have them do unto you." You will be much happier for it, and so will everyone at the wedding.
  5. If you are the groom and are going to be giving a speech, make certain you praise your mother-in-law. Even if for some reason you don't get along with your mother-in-law, it is customary for the groom to praise her, if only for raising your bride. Who knows your doing so may help to mend a breach if there is one. Anything is possible!
  6. Use the internet. Are you stumped for what to say during your wedding speech? There are plenty of examples online that can give you ideas for ways to give a heartfelt and appropriate speech. Don't be afraid to look online at the many different examples and then to pick and choose what pertains to what you want to convey for your wedding speech.
  7. If you are unknown to even half of the wedding party then be sure to introduce yourself and tell the wedding party why you were chosen to give a speech at the beginning. Maybe you are the best man, and a close childhood friend of the groom for example. The rest of the guests will truly appreciate your telling them if they have not had the chance to meet and speak with you as of yet, or have only done so briefly.
  8. Make eye contact. This is very important if you want those at the wedding to truly listen to you and hear what you have to say. Even if you only occasionally make eye contact with some of the people, or pan through the crowd from time to time this will help to keep their attention on you.
  9. Make your speech quickly and concisely. Don't drift off topic, or make long winded explanations. Most of all, delete the sound "um" from your speech, practice not using it if you use it when you get stumped. Instead make all your points in a concise manner, and this will help you to retain people's attentions throughout your speech.
  10. At the end of your speech, return the crowd's attention to the bride and groom. This is also your opportunity to wish them well.
  11. Make sure you stand to give your speech. Some people like myself have a tendency to get knocking knees when they have to get in front of a crowd. It is perfectly respectable to lean against a table if you your knees are shaking to help you to stand solidly. If you do it right, no one need ever even be aware you are doing so!
  12. Make sure you hold onto your speech cards or something else if your hands have a tendency to shake. This will help you to keep them still and hide your nervousness from the crowd.

Giving a speech at a wedding need not be nerve wracking, and can in fact become a memory to be cherished for many years to come both for yourself and those who are attending the wedding. If you follow these tips you will be certain to give such a speech!

Frequently Quoted Bible Verses

I Corinthians 13

Love is patient; love is kind. Love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way: it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrong doing, but rejoices in truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. And now faith, hope, and love abide, and the greatest of these is love.


I Corinthians 13

Love is patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud. Love is never haughty or selfish or rude. Love does not demand it's own way. Love is not irritable or touchy. Love does not hold grudges and will hardly notice when others do it wrong. Love is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out.


I Corinthians 13

Love is patient, Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects always trusts, always hopes, always preserves.


Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up. Again, if two lie together, they are warm; but how can one be warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him.


Song of Solomon 7:10-12 Growing in Love

I am my beloved, and his desire is toward me. Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages. Let us get up early to the vineyards; let us see if the vine flourish, whether the tender grape appear, and the pomegranates bud forth: there will I give thee my loves.

Song of Solomon 8:6-7 Love is as Strong as Death

Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be condemned.


Song of Solomon - Chapter 2:10-13

My lover spoke and said to me, "Arise my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me. See! The winter is past; the rains are over and gone. Flowers appear on the earth; the season of singing has come. The cooing of doves is heard in our land. The fig tree forms its early fruit; the blossoming vines spread their fragrance. Arise, come, my darling; my beautiful one, come with me."


Colossians - Chapter 3:12-19

Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God.

And whatever you do, whether in word or deed,

do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.


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